When you're trying to achieve your goals, one of the most important elements, if not the most important piece, that determines whether you succeed or fail is your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the attitude that you hold about your skills and abilities. Positive self-confidence means that you accept and trust yourself and believe that you have a general sense of control in your life. You are aware of your strengths and acknowledge your weakness, and have an overall positive view of yourself.
Self-Confidence and Reaching Goals
A person with positive self-esteem is likely to set realistic expectations and goals, communicates comfortably, and can even handle criticism.
When you're trying to reach your goals, one of the most important elements, if not the most important piece, that determines whether you succeed or fail is your self-confidence.
If a goal is too unrealistic or big, you'll likely get frustrated and give up on the goal completely. Lacking communication skills can create an obstacle or obstacles to achievement. And the ability to handle criticism is important because it helps you to grow and expand as a person.
Every worthwhile goal features hurdles and challenges along the way. Self-confidence is the piece that keeps you going in the right direction when the challenges inevitably come.
Self-assurance, having confidence in the things that you say and do because you are sure of your abilities, help you climb the mountains and jump the hurdles that stand in the way of the success you desire and deserve.
Strategies to Build Confidence & Achieve Your Goals
Keep a record
Begin to keep a record of your successes, no matter how small. If you love journals and notebooks as much as I do, this is as good a reason as any to get a new notebook.
In the very beginning section, write down your strengths. If you can't think of any, think about compliments you've received from others and jot those down. Leave some blank pages between this section and where you start your successes to allow room to add to this list.
Write down all of your wins – no matter how big or seemingly small they are.
To get started, try to recount your successes of the past and write those down too.
Whenever you begin to doubt yourself, look through your notebook and remind yourself of the times you've succeeded in the past.
As an added source of motivation, you may want to note the obstacles you met to arrive at success. This will help to remind you that you overcame those obstacles on your way to achievement.
As you go through each day, take note of your successes and strengths. Keep a record of your accomplishments that can help fuel your success for the rest of your life.
Start with small goals
I am a firm believer that small goals and wins add up to the achievement of bigger, larger goals.
If you have trouble recalling your successes or noticing your strengths, it’s possible you are trying to think too big. Think about the small wins on the way to the big one.
Set a few small goals that are fairly easy to attain.
Maybe you set a goal to buy a house as your big goal. Some small wins to note that may not seem noteworthy include:
- Saving for your downpayment.
- Paying down debt.
- Finding a grant to help with your downpayment.
- Finding a realtor.
The point is to achieve and acknowledge progress and success and to allow that success to fuel you for greater challenges and greater victories in your life.
When you achieve the small goals you've set for yourself, write them down in your notebook. It’s a cycle – as your confidence grows, your heart will long to shoot for bigger goals and greater challenges.
Your record of success will keep you pushing forward when doubts begin to creep in.
Act as if you're successful
A funny thing happens when you pretend you feel a certain emotion.
You actually began to feel that emotion!
Don’t believe me?
Try it right now.
Slouch your shoulders, lean forward, and put a frown on as if you're absolutely exhausted. How do you feel? A little tired? A little frumpy?
Now smile and begin to move your body like you do when you're excited.
Feel the difference?
To a large extent, you can control how you feel by the way you move your body.
If there is anything to pretend about, pretend you're confident.
Talk with confidence. Walk with confidence. Move your body with confidence.
The feelings will follow shortly.
Visualize your future
Where do you see yourself in five years? Ten years? What kind of job do you have? Do you own your own business? What is your ideal scenario regarding relationships? How much money do you make?
Every day, close your eyes and take a few moments to run a mental movie about the future you've always dreamed about.
Watch your success play out as if it's happening in the present and allow yourself to experience all of the senses. What does the scene look like? Smell like? Taste like? Feel like? Sound like?
You can take it a step further and journal all of these things. Writing things down gives you something to return to and also be grateful for when you reflect on what you accomplished.
Make your mental movie as vivid and detailed as possible for the full effect. If you do this every day, your mind will begin to move you in the direction of your ideal future.
You'll begin to take actions that support your success and lead you down the path of your dreams.
Your confidence will grow naturally with each success you experience, whether the success is in the real world or in your mind.
Instead of constantly reliving the mistakes you've made in the past, relive the glorious future you deserve time and time again to grow your confidence and coach yourself toward its attainment.
Confidence isn’t something that is particularly measurable, but you can definitely tell if it is on the lower end. Having someone to help hold you accountable for taking steps to increase your confidence and accomplish your goals can be life-changing.
Having a friend who is invested in helping you do the work, or even partnering with a coach can help you rebuild your self-confidence and stop harping on past mistakes.
Self-esteem not only impacts how you feel about yourself, but it also shapes the view and outlook on life. And it also plays a major piece in the foundation for your relationships with friends and family.
When something impacts your self-esteem, it is essential to take steps to work on it in a timely and thorough manner.
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