Relationships are crucial to your happiness and success in life. But that doesn’t mean you should just keep letting anyone into your life. There are some people who will drain your energy, steal your time, and generally be nothing but toxic to you. When you find yourself surrounded by these kinds of people, it’s time to start weeding them out of your life so you can move forward and feel good about the people who surround you every day. Here are 5 signs that point to the need to remove a toxic person from your life and how to do it effectively and with minimal damage.
5 Traits of Toxic People To Look For
They complain a lot
It’s easier than you think for other people’s negativity to seep into your own psyche. Removing toxic people is not only important for your physical health. But it can also be extremely beneficial for your mental well-being. While you should never judge others based on their personality, you also shouldn’t enable negative energy. If someone around you is constantly bringing everyone down with their negativity, maybe it’s time to say goodbye.
They take advantage of you
When a toxic person has you under their thumb, they may manipulate you into doing things for them, taking advantage of your time and energy. Not only that, but they’ll make you feel guilty if you don’t help them out. And, unfortunately, as is often the case with manipulation tactics, it’s hard to tell if someone else is trying to control you or if it’s just how they operate.
They are controlling
Anyone who tries to control every aspect of your life is toxic. When'sometries to control things like who you hang out with, where you go, how long you’re gone for, what time you come home they are toxic. It’s important that we have our own lives and interests outside of work, family, and friends. This helps reduce the likelihood that we lose ourselves in any one person or group.
Don’t let anyone have power over you. And if you feel like someone is trying to have that kind of power over you, it may. be time to let them go so you can grow, blossom, and expand.
They negatively impact your growth
The toxic person in your life may not be ready for self-improvement, but you are. If you surround yourself with people who constantly hold you back, you could end up becoming like them. People who complain about everything instead of taking positive action or engaging in productive conversations. That's not who you want to me and that’s never good. Don’t let others affect your growth by holding you back; always be on an upward trajectory.
They impact your self esteem in a negative way
Low self-esteem is often something that someone with toxic friends or family struggles with. If you’re constantly being put down by your loved ones, it’s time to have a heart-to-heart about how you feel. Ask for help if you need it. But remember that ultimately their opinion of you doesn’t matter. At the end of every day, only your opinion of yourself counts. And as far as that goes, let no one ever make you feel less than amazing.
How To Remove Toxic People From Your Life
We all have toxic people in our lives. Unfortunately, there’s no quick and easy way to get rid of them. But here are a few to start to separate yourself from toxic people.
Gradually minimize the time you spend with them. This is important, because if you just block someone immediately, it may cause them to lash out at you. There’s no need for that, right? By gradually spending less and less time with toxic people in your life will help lessen their impact on your emotional state. When you aren’t around these types of people anymore, eventually they will lose their power over you and won’t be able to hurt your feelings or make you feel crappy about yourself anymore either.
Find new positive acquaintances. If you really want to break free from someone who is toxic, getting involved in new activities and making new friends will not only help you meet great people, but it’ll also help fill up your time and give you something else besides that person to think about.
You could also simply start spending more time with your family and loved ones instead of these negative or toxic people who don’t appreciate or respect you for who you are and all that you do for them.
Spend more time alone getting to know yourself. If there’s someone you really need to remove from your life, do not let them drag you down with them. Spend some quality time alone so that you can figure out what you want and learn how to be happy on your own without needing a toxic person in your life as an excuse for being less than who you are or achieving what is important to you.
You want to surround yourself with positive, healthy people who love you and respect your time and energy. And you deserve just that!